Dating Red Flags – What is a Dating Red Flag?

Dating red flags are behaviors you observe in someone you just met, or in someone you’re currently dating, which may cause harm to you mentally, emotionally, or physically.  They are not conducive to creating a long-term, happy, sustainable relationship.

These behaviors are often ignored by men and women who are over eager to create a relationship, even when they may bring harm to themselves — – and possibly to others.  The “others” include their family of origin, relatives, their own children, friends, and even coworkers and other acquaintances.

For some reason, the newly dating or those who are highly unaware never seem to see them.  While the red flags are big, impressive, oppressive, and waving in all their glory, they’re still ignored.   I educate my clients to pay attention to the warning signs – and to take action when they observe behaviors which are counter to creating a positive, fulfilling relationship.

What’s your definition of a red flag?  What are some of the red flags you’ve observed in your past relationships or even in your current one?

When you’re dating, it’s important to be aware of red flags – like this one:

He or She Says One Thing and Does Another: Words and Actions Don’t Match:  Yikes!

We all say things on occasion and don’t follow through.  A steady diet of this means something else — lying.  There’s never a place for lying in a relationship.  It’s important to note the degree of consistency
between words and actions.  A healthy person is someone whose thoughts, words, and actions are highly aligned.

Excerpted from Dating Red Flags: What You Need to Know by Tara Kachaturoff.