Dating Red Flags – Why Dating Red Flags are Often Ignored
ByUnfortunately, ignoring something typically never results in it going away. The same thing is true for dating red flags. In fact, if they’re ignored for too long, you might end up getting married to him or her! There are many reasons why people ignore things, but when it comes to dating issues, I often see the same things repeatedly.
One of the most common reasons single men and women ignore red flags centers around having a scarcity mentality. They believe that if they don’t stay in their current relationship, no matter
how bad it is, and how poorly it’s aligned with their life vision and goals, they just won’t find another one.
Adopting a scarcity mentality keeps people stuck, tolerating unhappy, unfulfilling relationships. Contrary to what many believe, there’s not just one person on the earth for each person. We’re
all capable of creating fulfilling relationships with many different people. It’s just a matter of making the decision to do it.
And, as for there being a scarcity of people to date, according to the US Government Year 2000 Census, there were over 100 million singles. Look at these interesting statistics regarding the marital status of Americans. For purposes of this study, adults are considered to be 15 years of age and older.
- Total Adults in the US (age 15+): 221.1 million
- Total Adults currently married: 120.2 million (54.4%)
- Total Adults widowed or divorced: 41 million (18.5%)
- Total Adults never married: 59.9 million (27.1%)
- Total Singles: 101 million (46%)
- Age 15 – 24: 33,719,470 (86% of this group is single, 13% is married)
- Age 25 – 34: 17,770,233 (45% of this group is single)
- Age 35 – 59: 30,416,342 (31% of this age group is single, only 11.6% never married)
- Age 60+ : 18,993,285 (41.5% of this age group is single, only 4% never married)
When you’re dating, it’s important to be aware of red flags – like this one:
He or She Needs Constant Attention:
I’m afraid that job belongs to his or her mommy and daddy. You’re probably dealing with a narcissist. Dealing with a red flag like this is like trying to fill up a bucket that’s filled with holes. It’s never going to happen. Don’t go there.
Excerpted from Dating Red Flags: What You Need to Know by Tara Kachaturoff.