Dating Red Flags – One Strategy to Counter Dating Red Flags

It’s one thing to know about dating red flags, but it’s another thing to have strategies to counter them or to avoid them in the first place.  There are many ways to avoid getting deeply involved in a relationship that isn’t right for you.  I think one of the most important strategies is to take things slowly.

Think about what it’s like to drive a car fast.  When you’re driving fast, you miss a lot of the scenery along the way.  Everything is a blur as you race your car from somewhere to some place.  And, if obstacles appear ahead, it may be difficult for you to maneuver without causing damage to your vehicle, to others, and to yourself.

The same thing applies to relationships.  A relationship is not a destination.  That being said, there’s no race to get from here to there.  Relationships are a journey — they are made of moments of sharing, caring, intimacy and everything in between.

When you move too quickly, you can jeopardize your health, your wealth, and your happiness.  You need to take your time to see if someone is safe for you.  Making snap decisions, rearranging your life or lifestyle, or taking other actions to accommodate a newfound “would be” partner is highly risky.  Every day we hear about people doing this, often with very unfortunate results.

Why might it be important to you that you take things slowly?  It’s important to know the answer to this question before you start dating.

When you’re dating, it’s important to be aware of red flags – like this one:

He or She is a Poor Listener — Always Talking, Never Listening:

The truth is that the relationship is all about them.  I can assure you it will never be about you.

Excerpted from Dating Red Flags: What You Need to Know by Tara Kachaturoff.